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Coping with Change

by Paul G. Knight on December 16, 2020

Change. 

Specific research reveals some findings facts on “change.”   Research reports there are reasons a person reacts to change negatively.  

It has been said that change is the “only real constant.”  In reality, all around us, change is constantly occurring.

The one truth that man can know, is that “I Am that I Am”, Yewah, the Almighty God, never changes. 

As I understand, and believe, God never changes.  I believe this indicates that God’s love, His forgiveness, His compassion, His redemption for humanity never ceases, His Grace abounds free for all who by faith accepts Jesus Christ as savior.  God never changes, but the world and all of His creation changes.

In my opinion, “change is a God given gift to us.  We first see change in human life and animal life, a  baby  grows and develops into an adult. That is powerful!   We see change in the seasons, Summer, Fall, Winter and Spring.  The seasons are a constant reminder that God has purpose and ordered change.

Nature’s way of renewal – like wise – humans change, we grow from a baby in various stages to become adults.  Change is not only around us but also inside of us.  Years ago, in high school biology, I discovered that change is a part of all life forms, and its reality is dynamic; the opposite of change is static or stagnation.  When life in all forms is not changing, death is the end result.

Change should be embraced as an anticipated part of life and is to be expected.  Medical science has concluded that human cells constant change and are replaced every 7 to 10 years.  Clearly, we conclude that human are constantly changing, as is evident in human growth and development from infancy to senior adult.

Research provides some reasons that we humans do not like change.  Research shows that people have a very reliable and tangible preference for things that have been around longer.

Psychologically speaking, it’s not that people fear change, though they undoubtably do.  Could it also be that people generally believe (often on an unconscious level) that when you’ve been doing something a particular way for some time, it must be a good way to do things.   Research would suggest that the longer you’ve (we’ve) been doing something a particular way, the better it is.

Research indicates that change isn’t simply about embracing something unknown – it is about giving up something old (and therefore good) for something not good.

“The bottom line, people unconsciously, believe that longevity = goodness.”

The question becomes:  Why do we resist change?  If change is always happening. Why is it that some people continue to resist.?  Research found some interesting answers to change resistance.  Findings report these reasons.

Several reasons people resist change:

  1. Some people fear being different (we become creatures of habit over- time). We really like routine and familiar procedure.
  2. Some people can feel over-whelmed or stressed, and fatigue can be a reason to resist because of tiredness. (Tired people tend to be cranky, angry and irritable).
  3. Some people tend to fear a departure from status quo. Departing from the way we have always done something means change, to resist is a quick reaction.  Transformation makes people feel uncomfortable.
  4. Some people may lack trust in the person who is making the change.
  5. Some people know that change brings new problems.
  6. Some People have a preference for things to remain the way they are. They fear the unknown. The common saying: “Better the devil you know, rather than the devil you don’t.”
  7. Change is risky.

How a counselor can help an individual accept change?   A counselor will assist the individual to work through unfounded thoughts, feelings, and fears.  Some of these are:

  1. Change is an emotional experience.
  2. Change is loss.
  3. Need to have a plan to accept change.
  4. Lessen the factors that increase resistance

If you'd like to speak with one of Shandon's licensed counselors, please reach out to Susan Butler at 803-782-1300 or email at

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